If a thing is in your interest it is also in my interest. Otherwise, if any matter that affects you is no concern of mine, I am not a friend. Friendship creates a community of interest between us in everything.... No one can lead a happy life if he thinks only of himself and turns everything to his own purposes. You should live for the other person if you wish to live for yourself.
In Colossians 3:12-17, Paul clearly writes about the love and affection we are to have for one another in Christ. He specifically mentions these traits: compassion, kindness, humility, meekness, patience, bearing with one another, forgiveness, and love, which binds all these together. The community of Christ is to be a place of deep friendship, where love and care for one another are central.
What is your experience in the church like? Some may admit that their experience is nothing like what is pictured above. If that is the case, I encourage you to practice the forgiveness advocated by Paul. Be the change you want to see and begin to love others freely in Christ.
Others may feel this mutual friendship. My encouragement to you is to keep doing what you are doing, deepening the grace of those relationships while reaching out to others to include them in this circle.
In all things, practice the peace of Christ, realizing that friendship and faith go hand-in-hand, that we are called to express the love of Christ in our relationships with other people.
Are you finding new friends? Are you deepening existing relationships? Are you practicing forgiveness and love, or holding on to bitterness and discouragement?